You will be driven by something; either a purpose or a calling from God or you will be driven by your circumstances.
Paul identifies himself, Timothy, and the Philippians as servants of Jesus. Your identity is foremost, a servant, and a loved, forgiven child of God.
Grace and peace appear 34 times in 17 verses in the New Testament.
How many times does grace come first in the sequence of grace and peace?
Out of the 34 times in the 17 verses where grace and peace occur, every single time.
It is always grace and then peace.
Scripturally, grace always comes first, before peace. In like manner, a relationship needs to put grace first, so there can be peace in the relationship.